Kezzies Chit Chat- Fathers & Daughters

Hi Everyone,

I simply want to write after watching a good movie. But it only has to be good one, because if it isn’t there’s no use in me writing.

My friend recommended this movie and she said she teared up and I did not suspect any of the emotions that I actually felt before watching it. I just thought, “oh here we go another sad movie.”

But this movie touched my heart. The entire story line around it was so rigid and well scripted. It was simply an amazing movie, one of the best ones I have seen so far this year

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It is simply about this father and daughter who lost a wife/mother in a terrible car accident. The father however, struggles with some form of mental disorder and his hand shakes a lot. The psychologist called it random acts of psychotic breaks. So after the wife died, the father spent seven months in a mental institute to try and control these nasty breaks.

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The daughter went to live with her aunt, who is her mother’s sister. Let’s just say I called this aunt and uncle the evil ones in the movie. Because when he came back from the mental institute (he did not fully recover but I guess you could say he tried to adjust and cope with the breaks that still occurred) they tried to take his daughter away by asking him if they could adopt her.

How can someone want to try and let a child go through all that. I mean for one she just lost a mother and it is not like the father does not want to take care of his daughter. He truly loves her and went to the institute to get better, so that he be able to take care of his baby girl.

What I liked about the movie is that it was a back and forth script. One minute you are in the past and then it brings you to the present. In the present it is just Katie who is studying psychology. This hit close to home, being that I studied psychology. Although she becomes a social worker where she helps kids who are without a family.

Unfortunately, due to her nasty past she develops coping mechanisms that aren’t really healthy. She just calms down by going on one night stands, and there are quite a bit in the movie. Until she meets Cameron.

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Cameron happened to be a fan of her dad’s because by the way he was an author and his favourite book was Fathers and Daughters. See that’s where the movie title comes in. The book she finally realises at the close end of the movie is not only about the relationship that they both shared of father and daughter, but also it is about the continuos struggles in life.

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She finds this out when she is having a mental breakthrough after she does a huge mistake by cheating on Cameron. And he did not give her any reason to cheat, he was the nicest fellow.

At one point in the movie, that struck a heart beat was when Cameron invited her to go have dinner with her parents, and she freaked out. He continuously followed her and missed the dinner all throughout.

But after she slept with another, mind you, she left all the signs of her cheating there. She wanted him to find out she never tried to hide it. And once he did she knew … she knew that she was in the wrong; she had done a massive mistake.

She tried hooking up with strangers again but it didn’t work. Because now she finally knew … she knew what true love really meant. I think her idea of love never existing came from her nasty aunt because, “ oh yes” they had sued the father for custody of the daughter but the dad won. Only because his lawyers found out that the uncle was cheating on the aunt, so then they got a divorce and the entire case dropped.

So yes we see a scene whereby the aunt says that she is an old lady who still as yet did not find love. So maybe that’s where her love idea comes from but of course the fact that she is scared of being loved or that she is continuously afraid that Cameron was going to leave her was because the people who she cared about the most in life left her.

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Her mother died and her father died a few years later even after we get a heart warming scene of them two making a promise that the father won’t leave her until he is a very old man, maybe even a 1000 years old.

The death of her dad I think was the strongest scene in the entire movie, he had this tremor that kept going and he was in his shower. He tried grabbing onto the shower curtain but then slipped and hit his head with the radiator. We do not ever get to see the scene of Katie finding her dad like that it just skips to the funeral scene. But we can all imagine how terrible that is for anyone to be in that moment. To find someone who you love and care about dead on the floor. Truly horrible.

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Anyways so as a social worker she gets to work with this girl who also has lost her mother and ends up in foster care. Due to this trauma the child stops speaking for almost a year until Katie continuously listens to her in multiple sessions and she finally speaks. At the end of the movie we find out that she is going to be adopted and it is then when they go to the park and have a heartwarming conversation does Katie realise what her dad’s book was truly about and that Cameron is someone she should not give up on!

So she tries calling him but he doesn’t answer. So then she just puts on her boots and runs over to his place and tells him that she misses him and he is the best thing that ever happened in her life. And she knows. . . she knows she isn’t the easiest girl to be around with. But then the ball drops cos in comes another girl’s voice saying “ I could leave if you want me to”. Then Katie just says thank you for everything that you have done for me and she leaves oh and Cameron says that she is just a friend the mystery girl.

So then we see Katie walk back to her apartment but when she gets there, guess who is waiting by the door? YES it’s Cameron and oh my god that scene was so powerful when they just embrace each other and the end! Just speechless!

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I just loved this movie altogether. Mental health can just take over a human being and no matter what you do there isn’t much we can do about it. All we can do is be there for the person. The father didn’t have anyone but his loving daughter who did not know about anything. Even though the father was struggling, physically and emotionally he still did everything in his power to make that girl smile.

Also, the coping mechanisms we see in this movie, trying to overcome depression, trauma of the past is so articulate and well scripted. People do go through this, they do experience it and let me tell you, with the right support, environment and mental power you can get through it !!

Don’t be ashamed if you are going through something, simply speak up when you can. If you would like to read more and if you are interested in someone who can give you a helping hand then check this website out – https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/therapy/how-do-i-find-a-therapist-near-me/

And if you want some further advice on depression and anxiety then click on the following links –

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/depression/

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/anxiety/

I think this movie is by far an A+ in my books and probably will try and watch it plenty more times because the story behind it is so rich and full of raw emotion!

I hope you enjoyed my little ramble. Happy sunday!

Love Kezzie

xoxo

How to be Single – Love Chit Chat

Hi everyone,

Yes today is Video day over on my channel – http://www.youtube.com/KezziesCorner however I am sick at home so I had the time to myself for a bit.

I have done multiple things which if I had went to work would have never had the time or strength and energy to do them!

I am so glad I actually stayed watching a Movie on my own – it has been so long. Mostly because I have not found a good movie in what seem like ages !!

I also managed to read 3 books in the course of less than 2 weeks!

Kezia never does that! She’s picky when it comes to food and also you guessed it with books, movies, TV shows you name it!!

I have been wanting to write about the books I have read but didn’t really feel that motivated. When posting something here I want to make sure that it is worth posting and it is interesting to probably the few readers who read my blog – and guys I love you for taking the time to reading my blog. I really enjoy writing and honestly I am angry at myself for not using my time in writing so much! I miss it but it seems that I only want to do it when the passion for it is there, and today I found it!

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The movie – How to be Single – stars actresses who I love – Rebel Wilson, Dakota Johnson & Leslie Mann amongst others who did a really good job in communicating with the audience and sharing such a wonderful story!

This is basically about the main character – Alice played by Dakota – trying to live and trying to find herself as an independent woman who does not need a man in her life. She wants to do the basic things in her life like unzip a dress by herself! And she figures out all this by the end of the movie!

I loved the ending because she finally got to do the hike at the Grand Canyon! I was so impressed by sort of the ending to the story with a life lesson to the audience.

I am in a relationship and I am so happy with him. We met last year and it was something that happened so randomly.

Like I am the type of girl who falls for someone easily – I admit that! And I used to be the girl that the first guy I meet – that’s it – He’s The one. The end. But I guess you figure these things out the hard way – by getting your heart broken. I did refuse to believe it was over when one relationship ended and pined for it to go back to the way it was. But it didn’t and it did take me quite a while to grasp the concept of letting go and moving on. I guess it is extra hard if you are an over emotional and over sensitive person.

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But don’t worry, goodness I promise you it is not the end of the world. Sometimes life can strike you and you just have to say everything happens for a reason unfortunately. We all do have our own destinies and no one told us it would be a walk in the park!

Anyways when I met Luke he really surprised me, I never expected that we would even last this long. But he just has everything about him that makes him genuine, caring, loving, understanding and the list goes on. Sometimes we laugh at how similar we are. I am so thankful to have found him. Obviously with every relationship you start there will always be that fear of it ending. Especially if you have stuff that happened in your past that will make it harder for you to trust that this time it will be different.

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I tell my friends that if he’s the one it won’t end and the relationship will only blossom. Even I have my stupid fears that come in the way sometimes but it could be those exact fears that can ruin and harm the entire relationships. So don’t act upon them and try to trust yourself and the person you are with that if it’s meant to be it will be.

Even though I am in a relationship we all want that “me time”. Heck I want it! I love staying at home in my PJ’s catching up on Geordie Shore or watching the Finale of Quantico.

But then of course I know that since I love him I am going to miss him and will be craving his cuddles A.S.A.P. But when being in a relationship we should not forget who we are and get lost in it. Do not change for anyone because it is not worth it in losing your identity!

Being single allows you to discover more about yourself and is a time in your life which I think we all need. I see it as a time before we find the right guy. We should not push it and think that the first guy you are ever going to meet will be the one. Just as we have heard many times – you have to kiss quite a bit of frogs to find the right one.

The movie really pin points all that there is to being single – the partying, one night stands, getting drunk but in the end even those who find being single is the only way to go will turn to finding companionship.

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Us humans thrive to find love and be loved by someone else. I don’t know if maybe the media would not promote love as much as it does, would we be so influenced as much as we are to find love and fall in love with someone else?

Anyways yea I just wanted to write today because the movie inspired me to do so.

I hope you enjoyed it!

Don’t forget a new video will be up SOON!

Love Kezzie

xoxo

Blogmas Day 14, 15, 16 – Christmas Holiday Makeup & Outfit, Last week at work, Christmas Logs

Dear everyone,

 

First off, I would like to tell my amazing FOLLOWERS, thank you so much for following my blog! I have reached up to 50 Followers !!! Thank you so much it truly means a lot that there are other people out there who are actually reading what I write.

 

Thank you !!

 

My week has been awfully busy! I have my last week of my full time job before we break for christmas recess! I am so excited for the holidays! Having to not wake up early is a DREAM come true.

I will still be working some shifts at my other job however it will not be a lot! So I will have time to experiment with my new camera, my blog and my youtube channel – FUN!!!

I am also craving of doing some vlogs! I am literally craving to do them. Like on my way to work, in my car I stay pretending like my camera is rolling and I am filming chit chat car vlogs – am I okay?

On Monday we had an outing with the children where we went to the cinema and watched Get Santa. Honestly I have not seen a santa movie in forever! So watching it just made me feel all festive and warm inside. I don’t know exactly what it was but the film was so cute! I immediately messaged my boyfriend and told him we HAVE to watch a santa clause movie. Like it is a MUST!

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That is a selfie I took in my car :p
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That is a selfie I took whilst at the cinema :p I was wearing my new sweater!

Then Tuesday was quite a boring day I guess. I finished work at 6pm as always and went to my nan. She made me scrumptous dinner – a burger with bacon and onions and garlic. She fried some tomatoes – we never do that at home so I love them when she does them for me! Then she did me some chips . . . but man her chips are like dipped in OIL! Maybe a little too much. But I love my nan.

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A black and white selfie I took for Tuesday. 

Then Wednesday which is still happening right now but I had to blog now or else this blog will never be published today and therefore I would miss more blogmas posts. I am trying so badly to not miss a day !!!

Today we had to bake christmas logs at school with the children. And I was so worried in the beginning that everywhere will be ONE BIG FAT MESS…. but to my surprise it did not turn out that way! I was so happy!!! Each and every one of the kids, did a great christmas log. All had the right amount of condensed milk .. okay some did look way too soggy but hey they then covered it with nutella — and when I say covered I mean LITERALLY covered with nutella from top to bottom, from left to right that the soggyness was undetectable. I took some photos and joined them in one collage:

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Don’t they all look delicious? They smelt amazing too!! They decorated in creative ways, I am sure their parents are super thrilled – if not, I do not know what’s wrong with them!!

Before I end this blog I also want to include that since today is VIDEO DAY I uploaded a video- it is my first collab video with a youtuber who has recently joined youtube – Niki Khorrami.

Please check out her channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCke1_U26oDVRVmyAI_Z4ioQ

We put together a Makeup and Outfit look for this Christmas Season. So here you go and have a look at it when you can 🙂

I would like to finally say THANK YOU to all those who subscribed to my channel!! I am soon at 500 subbies !!

Anyways best be off, as now I have a christmas work dinner 😀

See you all next time,

Kezzie

xoxo